Letting Go Using NLP Techniques

Why is it when we know what we want we seem to hold back and stop ourselves from getting it?

Our negative emotions often come from our unconscious and it seems at times that our unconscious is somehow sabotaging our efforts. This isn't the case, our unconscious always acts with the best intentions, it never purposely sabotages us without good reason.

I recently worked with a client who was determined to improve his wealth and yet despite all the good efforts he was making he didn't seem to be getting anywhere. It was the classic one step forward 2 steps back.

We spent some time looking into his beliefs surrounding money and wealth. It became clear that he had a negative view of wealthy people and this seemed to be the main thing that was holding him back.

We used an NLP technique called parts integration that helped with this blockage. The great thing about these sort of techniques is that they work very quickly, there is no need for repeat sessions and often they can be successful in 1 or 2 sessions.

The coaching session was by phone and went something like this-

We talked about his childhood and things he had been taught about money by his parents, we discovered that in particular his mother had a negative view of rich people. He was often taught that they were greedy and that they would have cheated to get the money they had etc etc.

We divided his emotions into 2 parts, on the one hand he wanted to be rich, on the other had it appeared he was reluctant to make that breakthrough.

I told him to put the phone on speaker (It's even easier on skype with headphones!) Placing his hands in front of him palm up about body width apart. Taking the right hand as the one that wanted to be rich we used a visualisation of this 'rich mindset' he had. We explored the reasons for this desire. Each time getting deeper and deeper into the meaning behind it.

"For what purpose do you want to be rich"

"I want to be rich because I want to have lots of money"

"For what purpose do you want to have money?"

"To be able to buy what I want"

"What will this achieve?"

"I will get a feeling of satisfaction"

"How will that benefit you?"

"I will feel good"

"What purpose will that serve?"

"erm........ I will feel more confident"

"How will that benefit you?"

"I wont feel as insecure"

"and how will that benefit you?"

"I will feel secure"

By this point he was repeating the answer (not as insecure - more secure) I knew that this was the core belief.

We then turned to the other hand and went through a similar exercise. Working through the beliefs, we went through "I don't want to be thought of as greedy", I don't want to be disliked, I want family to still love me, I want to feel secure.

The common belief was a desire to feel secure. The unconscious mind far from self sabotaging him was protecting him from losing that security.

I then asked him where his hands were now and as I anticipated they were a lot closer together, we then went through and exercise where we demonstrated that it was ok to be rich and he would still have his family (in particualr his mother's love). We worked on this until his hands came together.

He reported a month later that after freeing this mental blockage he had already witnessed some improvements in his wealth.

If you would like the chance to talk through any limiting beliefs you may have feel free to drop me a line at steve@ukwealthcoach.com